Updated: Apr 27
Experiencing emotional rollercoasters when you are getting your home remodeled is a pretty common phenomenon. When you leave things up to someone else, you may feel like you have little to no control over the situation, which means that it can lead to experiencing a variety of emotions throughout the process. Is there anything that can be done to avoid it? Spoiler alert: communication is the key to working it out. Read below how to identify and navigate through remodeling emotions:
If you have not remodeled before, you may be unfamiliar with how the remodeling process usually works. Although companies operate slightly differently, most projects usually run the same way.
The first feeling that comes is usually excitement, especially if it is your first time ever remodeling. Saving up for the project of your dreams and then finally being able to start it is a huge accomplishment. When you finally make the design selections and move forward with the contract, you will be excited to get your project on the production calendar. You and your family will talk about it, visualize it, and anxiously wait for it to get started.
Most people feel buyers remorse at one point when making a significant purchase. At one point you might doubt yourself or your decisions. The best thing to do when buyers remorse creeps in is to tune out the negative thoughts and focus on the bigger picture. Visualize the finished product and focus on the feelings you envision yourself feeling. For example, if you are getting a deck built, visualize your family using it; your partner reading a book, your kids playing freely, your family enjoying it and creating memories. A happy moment. If you are getting your siding re-done, or your home painted, visualize all the photos you will take of your family in your front yard with a gorgeous house in the background. Envision how proud you will feel when guests arrive for the holidays and compliment your beautiful home. Or perhaps your goal is to eventually sell the home, so you envision all the attention it will get when you improve the curb appeal. When you shift your thoughts to the end goal, it allows you to focus on what really matters; your motives of why you want to get it done to begin with. This method keeps you right on path to accomplishing your goals without feeling remorse.
Once your project finally begins, you will feel excitement. Watching your home come apart can be a mesmerizing thing to watch. You might even take a couple of photos of the crew using their tools and equipment to show your friends on your social media. After all, it's super cool having professionals at your home helping you piece your house together to look just the way you want it to.
Somewhere along the project, you will worry about something. "Why are they doing that thing with that one thing?", "Why is x not being done yet?" etc, You might have envisioned a different process. At this point, when all the unknowns start coming along, you might begin to worry about your project not turning out the way you hoped. Talking to your contractor during this phase is important, especially if you can't seem to stop worrying. It's okay to ask questions. It is better to get clarification beforehand than to lose sleep at night.
You may feel angry when you have unanswered questions, or your calls aren't being returned on a weekend, or you simply don't feel heard. You are angry that the project won't be done on time because there was a delay, or you have to make a significant change because x item is no longer in stock. Before it even gets to this point, it's important that you at least have an idea of what the potential delays could be. Remodeling projects almost never go according to plan. Unforeseen circumstances arise, materials run out, materials can be delayed, weather can impede the project from making progress, someone can get sick etc. So many things can happen, it's just the way remodeling is. The only way you can feel better about these situations is if there is communication. "At what times can I reach the project manager or communication person for the project?", "What will the scheduling look like?". Once you are able to establish all the communication and scheduling expectations beforehand, it helps alleviate these problems from arising because you will at least know when to expect an answer.
If you didn't establish communication and scheduling expectations beforehand, it's a good rule of thumb to wait for a response first thing the next business morning. Contractors also have families they spend time with on their days or evenings off. Some contractors don't answer their phones during a weekend out of respect to their partners/families. The best way to solve any problem in remodeling is by approaching it in a non-defensive or accusatory manner. Instead, look for solutions together. Ask questions, make suggestions. This approach will bring the best results for the outcome of your project.
Once your project is finalized you will finally begin to relax. You will feel satisfied that your project is finally completed to your expectations. Most companies don't stop there. Some take photos of their work and post it on their social media or websites to showcase to other homeowners looking to get a similar project done, which usually means that people like/comment compliments on your new home.
You did it! Now you can begin creating memories with your friends and family.